WHY YOU ACT THE WAY YOU DO BY TIM LAHAYE

According to the writer, Temperament influences everything you do- from sleep habits to study habits to eating style to the way you get along with other people. Humanly speaking, there is no other influence in your life more than your temperament or combination of temperaments. That is why it is so essential to know your temperaments and to be able to analyze other people’s temperaments, not to condemn them , but so you can maximize your potential and enable them to maximize theirs.

Temperament is the combination of traits we inherited from our parents. It is a person’s temperament that makes him outgoing and extroverted or shy and introverted. Temperament is, however the number one influence on a person ‘s life, not only because it is the first thing that affects us, but because, like body structure, color of eyes, and other physical characteristics, it escorts us through life.

Temperament is the combination of in born traits that subconsciously affect man’s behavior. Character is the rel you, personality is the outward expression of ourselves which may or may not be the same with our character depending on how genuine we are.

According to the writer, there are four basic temperament.

A.    SANGUIN- strength  (outgoing, responsive, warm and friendly, talkative, enthusiastic, compassionate). Weakness (indiscipline, emotionally unstable, unproductive, egocentric, compassionate)

B.     MELANCHOLY- strength (gifted, analytical, aesthetic, self-sacrificing, industrious, self-disciplined). Weaknesses (moody , self-centered, revengeful, touchy, unsociable, critical, negative)

C.     CHOLERIC- strength (strong-willed, independent, visionary, practical, productive, leader decisive) weaknesses (cold, unemotional, self-sufficient, impetuous, domineering, unforgiving, sarcastic, angry, cruel,)

D.    PHLEMATIC- strength (calm, quiet, easy-going, dependable, objective, diplomatic efficient, organized ) weaknesses(unmotivated, procrastinator, selfish, stingy, self- protective , indecisive, fearful and worrier.)

There is also the twelve blends nof temperament: SANCHLOR, SANMEL, SANPHLEG, CHLORSAN, CHLORMEL, CHLOPHLEG, MELSAN, MELCHLOR, MELPHIEG, PHLEGSAN. PHLEGCHLOR, PHILEH MEL.

According to the writer the only way to strengthen our our weaknesses, is to allow the Holy Spirit to lead us so that we can receive the fruits of the spirit. Out of the nine fruits of the Holy Spirit, the SANGUIN needs peace, long-sufferring, gentleness , meekness, faith, self –control.

CHOLERIC needs love, joy , peace, gentleness, meekness and goodness. The MELANCHOLY needs long-sufferring, self-control, joy, peace, goodness, meekness, and faith .  And finally the 

needs love,compassion, endurance , goodness, faith and self-control.

This is a great book, and I relished every moments spent reading this book. This book can be use to restore lost luster in marriages and in inter personal relationships……..WHAT DO YOU THINK?